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Confidence…the power to change

“If you were out in the future doing what you want to do, what would you need to believe that you don’t believe now?”

The power to change

One step at a time

Plenty of people who are affected by ‘lack of confidence’ get the help they need to conquer their issue through hypnotherapy, You too can find relief from that feeling,  by seeking to gain more understanding and by learning techniques to create change.  By contacting me at my East London practice we can work together to help you turn things around.  You could get back the control to reduce those old feelings and use your liberated confidence as a vehicle to drive your aspirations by making them real.

What is confidence to you?

It’s said that confidence is how we view our own capacity to do something. Low confidence is when we view our abilities to accomplish or create skills as being minimal. When we lose the ability to feel that sense of self-assurance we can find it hard to move forward with our lives.

Interestingly, self confidence is similar but not the same as self respect which relates to our view of ourselves.  Some clients with low self-confidence report that the core of their problem is a sense of ‘not being good enough’.  So when it comes to ‘going for it’  they remain stuck because they feel that by stepping out of their comfort zone the risk to their self-esteem is too high.  Does that sound familiar?

*** Tips that help people feel more confident coming up soon…

Everybody is different and the reasons for a lack of confidence  can be really simple or fairly complex.

Now nobody is 100% confident all of the time, but all of us are stronger than we think we are, it can be the mind that gets in the way of the expression of our strength.

Cognitive hypnotherapy is an effective way to find the root cause of your confidence issues and help you to deal with them efficiently.

Why people need to be self assured?

So many aspects of our lives are impacted by self confidence. It has an effect on how we manage speaking in public or even just how we talk to friends or colleagues one to one.

We need this ability to allow us to take possibilities we may otherwise disregard.We need to feel competent and able to progress in everyday life.

If you find yourself suffering from low confidence you may experience shyness in public, you might find yourself feeling self conscious and self aware socially. You may be turning down job offers because of a resounding belief you are not able to do the job.

Exactly why do people have confidence issues?

Low self confidence can be generated by one particular trauma that influenced how you view your talents. Maybe it came from a childhood full of difficulty and negativity from your peers. In some cases people can discover their confidence is damaged having not realised it was a problem.

A few negative events can really affect us significantly – maybe a redundancy has left you more tormented by rejected job applications than you formerly would’ve been.

Sometimes its easy to overlook how much events have affected us negatively and how those effects may be preventing us from moving forward. Sometimes, the reason is far less traumatic and simply a case of the person not recognising their skills and abilities or not knowing how to apply these skills and capabilities effectively.

Some signs you could have low self confidence are:

Constant self doubt, avoidance of certain situations for fear of feeling uncomfortable, difficulties speaking confidently, dismissing your own needs or not identifying what they are or disregarding or avoiding beneficial opportunities you would like to seize, but find something is blocking you.

Can it be helped?

It most definitely can. The first step is finding out what created your low self confidence in the beginning. Because in Cognitive Hypnotherapy we look at the issues that have triggered your problem yet focus much more on those steps that effectively move you forward towards your solution.

Using hypnosis and other therapeutic tools tailored to your needs, you will be supported as you move towards those changes you want in the way you are thinking, feeling or behaving.

There are lots of options for those living with low confidence, and it’s upsetting to think that its only your mind blocking you from personal growth in life. But you can get help and by identifying this now, and by doing something now,  it could prove very empowering!

When its only your own mind that is the obstacle, you have a chance to turn that around and move forward, changing into the person you would like to be.

Tips that help us feel more confident:

“We need a sense of self-confidence to drive our aspirations and make them real…”

1. Keeping up with the Jones?

Self-confident people don’t have to be like everybody else – they recognise that  it can be exhausting trying to be seen ‘as-like’ other people around them. In fact confidence means feeling more comfortable with being who you are.

By learning to accept your own uniqueness – relaxing with your own way of being and recognising that being different doesn’t mean you have to doubt your decisions, you can begin to discover your personal strengths.

2. Recognising your personal strengths and confidence

Speaking of which – focusing on your personal strengths regularly, no matter how big or small, is a great way to remind yourself that you have positive attributes. One client was admired by her family and colleges because of her home made chocolate brownies, another could play any string instrument.  Or it could be the ability to drive, ride a bike, swim, roller skate, make people laugh, be methodical, or show empathy  – whatever it may be there will be something you can do which others maybe even millions of other people can’t do.

3. Emotional intelligence and confidence

Handling uncertainty – None of us can know for sure that something will go well, by taking the stance  ‘Whatever happens I’ll be okay!’ we grow an emotional intelligence which is bigger than limiting ourselves through a categorisation of just either success or failure.

4. Prepare to fail and stay on-top

Being self-confident means being able to relax comfortably with the certainty that you can handle uncertainty  AND even if this means that we sometimes fail, seeing this as a learning process we can utilise when we try again later.

Did you know that Edison failed 10,000 times before he was successful at producing a working light bulb? Thankfully he didn’t stop after his first attempt!   Quote: “I’ve not failed I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work!”  Moral?  Never doubt – self confident people can smile a little and not take themselves too seriously by learning to manage less successful attempts and not damage their self-esteem.

If you really want to get to grips with your specific issue please contact me for an initial chat and to set up and appointment – you know “you deserve to be the best you can be.”

To your good health,