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Happy New Year resolutions 2018

Happy New Year resolutions to one and all!

How do you cultivate your happiness in 2018?

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Keeping your New Year Resolution in 2018

Reach for the stars

And I wonder what you intend to focus on in 2018? Any ideas?  What New Year wish means happiness for you and what one thing would you love to achieve?

Sometimes we have the big picture of what we would like to happen – it’s the getting there that can seem to evade us. Before we know it, we’re saying ‘Hey Happy New Year 2019!’ Wow! Time flies!

The most reportedly popular New Year Resolutions that people seek appears to fall into these categories.

  • Health and physical fitness
  • Money
  • Finding a career or changing your job
  • Ditching bad relationships, creating stable and loving ones.
  • Having fun and that can also mean time for yourself.

Do you hanker to revisit a beloved activity; from sewing to your artistic flair. Or finding something new like learning a language or becoming a bit of a Master chef.

  • Spending more time face to face with people which means less time on social media!
  • Giving back to your community by becoming active in a cause or donating cash.
  • Caring for another – be that family, pets or your favourite garden plant-life.

Or maybe you have something that’s unique which means creating the time to plan for the New Year. That’s very often the issue isn’t it TIME TO PLAN?  The ticking clock can become the blunt instrument that we always beat ourselves up with because we feel the pressure. And it can lead to all sorts of unhelpful messages about our ability to gain traction and achieve what we do want.

Time is a construct! – Use a bit of ‘time-trickery!’

New Year Resolution 2018

With just a little effort

It was in the 19th Century that the 80/20 rule was given light by a chap called Wilfred Pareto.   He discovered that 80 percent of the world’s worth was in the hands of just 20 percent of the population. And further investigation shows that this simple rule is a pattern found in many areas in life. For example, if you were to examine how you live your life you might notice how you spend,

  • 80 percent of your time focused on 20 percent of the problems that created you’re worrying.
  • 80 percent of your achievements remarkably comes from 20 percent of the effort you put in.

This rule can even impact the clothing you wear, so that

  • 80 percent of the time you find yourself wearing only 20 percent of what’s in your wardrobe.

Does this pattern ring a bell for you?

Where are you spending most of your energy? How would you better use that power to get the results that are important to you?

What kind of things do you need to do towards achieving a sense of meaning and purpose that results in higher happiness in 2018!

Procrastination is not a New Year option?

Rather than procrastinating because you need to find the time to plan. Stop just for 30 minutes and ask yourself these following questions. In answering them, (write your answers down), you could continue your journey towards an exciting year and progressive steps to feeling better.

People, places, things

  1. What are the 20 percent activities and areas of your life which involve 80 percent feelings of unwelcome pressure? (That could be stress or anxiety at work, in your home life, or something else?)
  2. What are the 20 percent things that you do in which you can acknowledge you have 80 percent of your happiness?
  3. Who are the 20 percent people in your life that you share 80 percent of your most enjoyable experiences?
  4. When it comes to feeling energised and happy, who or what comes to mind? And in the same vein what or who causes you to feel drained of energy?

Time to take action this New Year 2018

Take a look at your responses to those questions. Your answers can indicate what you could be doing more of and where you could genuinely make a start.

Realising you have a choice can give you a sense of what you value and what you need to start attracting in your health goals, relationships, your work, and in seeking out more fun times too.

If you were able to attract more of what makes you happy in your life, what things would you choose to focus more wholeheartedly on in 2018?

What would you be doing to reap more joyful long-term benefits? You may be surprised at how you can focus more on your direction by starting with one small action!

Doing those things which give you a sense of optimism and worth about yourself and your future is like gaining a new skill or gradually changing old habits.

Make the first step to a better new year a simple one

Focus more of your attention on the positive steps you will be taking.

For example, it’s easier to change your bedtime routine, so that you aren’t wound up from watching the 10 pm news on TV. A simple choice could be to read or watch something more light-hearted instead.  In other words, go to bed with happier thoughts!

Whereas making different friendship choices – that’s who you spend your downtime with, maybe more of a gradual process. As is your health goals and the small things you could be doing to make improvements.

By sticking to the completion of a first step, you’ll be making a change towards giving more quality focus and action on a percentage that enriches you and gives you a sense of accomplishment.

What will you gain?  What will you lose?

With any New Year wish it’s wise to take into account what you may gain as well as what you may lose. If letting go of the old and bringing on the new causes you to grow then that’s a good thing, as is also being considerate of others and acting honourably.

Where to start?

When we consider how ‘time is precious’ if you only had a year to achieve one aspect of your purpose or desire, what are the things you would choose to put to one side?  To cut down on the feeling of being overwhelmed which limits your focus.  It may be a matter of delegation; it may be that you just need to let that go.

Focusing more wholeheartedly on what brings you greater benefits means taking small action steps. That’s how you could be getting closer to making those strides all connect into a significant achievement.

Keeping in mind that it’s not always the destination but the journey along the way that can bring you a real sense of satisfaction. And sometimes this approach can reveal new ideas, thoughts, and directions which are exciting.

Starting as you mean to go on.

Positive psychology contains many tactics for retraining the brain to seek out more optimistic patterns.  Choosing to tune into optimism has many health benefits including reducing stress.

Every night before you go to sleep, give thanks as you review from life those things that make you feel grateful.

Decide that 2018 will be a period of growth. That means that even if there are downs as well as ups, you’ll be able to celebrate the learning. All the potential for an increase in skills, resourcefulness, resilience and insights when 2018 comes to its conclusion.

Every day, follow your instincts by taking gradual steps. No matter how small, they all add-up towards you getting a step closer to your goal and continuing on the path of happiness.

Letting go of Limiting Beliefs – what stops you completing New Year Resolutions?

A-ha – those gremlins can be a bummer!  If something in your mind is stopping you, a fear, sheer anxiety or procrastination. Is self-doubt stopping you from taking steps towards a better life? Then maybe 2018 could be the right time to seek professional help and guidance.

Or do you want to wait until 2019…2020…2021…2022?

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Have you heard of:

 Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology? He postulates that while our genetics and environment determine 60 percent of happiness, the remaining 40 percent is up to us.

May I wish you all a brilliant 2018, including good health, happiness and prosperity.

And as always thanks for reading.

New Year Resolutions

Maria Richards Cognitive Hypnotherapist

Whether it’s stress, anxiety or building your confidence in finding your life purpose, I’m here to help. Click on my image to find my contact me page

Confidence…the power to change

“If you were out in the future doing what you want to do, what would you need to believe that you don’t believe now?”

yes you canPlenty of people who are affected by ‘lack of confidence’ get the help they need to conquer their issue through hypnotherapy, You too can find relief from that feeling,  by seeking to gain more understanding and by learning techniques to create change.  By contacting me at my East London practice we can work together to help you turn things around.  You could get back the control to reduce those old feelings and use your liberated confidence as a vehicle to drive your aspirations by making them real.

What is confidence to you?

It’s said that confidence is how we view our own capacity to do something. Low confidence is when we view our abilities to accomplish or create skills as being minimal. When we lose the ability to feel that sense of self-assurance we can find it hard to move forward with our lives.

Interestingly, self confidence is similar but not the same as self respect which relates to our view of ourselves.  Some clients with low self-confidence report that the core of their problem is a sense of ‘not being good enough’.  So when it comes to ‘going for it’  they remain stuck because they feel that by stepping out of their comfort zone the risk to their self-esteem is too high.  Does that sound familiar?

*** Tips that help people feel more confident coming up soon…

Everybody is different and the reasons for a lack of confidence  can be really simple or fairly complex.

Now nobody is 100% confident all of the time, but all of us are stronger than we think we are, it can be the mind that gets in the way of the expression of our strength.

Cognitive hypnotherapy is an effective way to find the root cause of your confidence issues and help you to deal with them efficiently.

Why people need to be self assured?

So many aspects of our lives are impacted by self confidence. It has an effect on how we manage speaking in public or even just how we talk to friends or colleagues one to one.

We need this ability to allow us to take possibilities we may otherwise disregard.We need to feel competent and able to progress in everyday life.

If you find yourself suffering from low confidence you may experience shyness in public, you might find yourself feeling self conscious and self aware socially. You may be turning down job offers because of a resounding belief you are not able to do the job.

Exactly why do people have confidence issues?

Low self confidence can be generated by one particular trauma that influenced how you view your talents. Maybe it came from a childhood full of difficulty and negativity from your peers. In some cases people can discover their confidence is damaged having not realised it was a problem.

A few negative events can really affect us significantly – maybe a redundancy has left you more tormented by rejected job applications than you formerly would’ve been.

Sometimes its easy to overlook how much events have affected us negatively and how those effects may be preventing us from moving forward. Sometimes, the reason is far less traumatic and simply a case of the person not recognising their skills and abilities or not knowing how to apply these skills and capabilities effectively.

Some signs you could have low self confidence are:

Constant self doubt, avoidance of certain situations for fear of feeling uncomfortable, difficulties speaking confidently, dismissing your own needs or not identifying what they are or disregarding or avoiding beneficial opportunities you would like to seize, but find something is blocking you.

Can it be helped?

It most definitely can. The first step is finding out what created your low self confidence in the beginning. Because in Cognitive Hypnotherapy we look at the issues that have triggered your problem yet focus much more on those steps that effectively move you forward towards your solution.

Using hypnosis and other therapeutic tools tailored to your needs, you will be supported as you move towards those changes you want in the way you are thinking, feeling or behaving.

There are lots of options for those living with low confidence, and it’s upsetting to think that its only your mind blocking you from personal growth in life. But you can get help and by identifying this now, and by doing something now,  it could prove very empowering!

When its only your own mind that is the obstacle, you have a chance to turn that around and move forward, changing into the person you would like to be.

Tips that help us feel more confident:

“We need a sense of self-confidence to drive our aspirations and make them real…”

1. Keeping up with the Jones?

Self-confident people don’t have to be like everybody else – they recognise that  it can be exhausting trying to be seen ‘as-like’ other people around them. In fact confidence means feeling more comfortable with being who you are.

By learning to accept your own uniqueness – relaxing with your own way of being and recognising that being different doesn’t mean you have to doubt your decisions, you can begin to discover your personal strengths.

2. Recognising your personal strengths and confidence

Speaking of which – focusing on your personal strengths regularly, no matter how big or small, is a great way to remind yourself that you have positive attributes. One client was admired by her family and colleges because of her home made chocolate brownies, another could play any string instrument.  Or it could be the ability to drive, ride a bike, swim, roller skate, make people laugh, be methodical, or show empathy  – whatever it may be there will be something you can do which others maybe even millions of other people can’t do.

3. Emotional intelligence and confidence

Handling uncertainty – None of us can know for sure that something will go well, by taking the stance  ‘Whatever happens I’ll be okay!’ we grow an emotional intelligence which is bigger than limiting ourselves through a categorisation of just either success or failure.

4. Prepare to fail and stay on-top

Being self-confident means being able to relax comfortably with the certainty that you can handle uncertainty  AND even if this means that we sometimes fail, seeing this as a learning process we can utilise when we try again later.

Did you know that Edison failed 10,000 times before he was successful at producing a working light bulb? Thankfully he didn’t stop after his first attempt!   Quote: “I’ve not failed I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work!”  Moral?  Never doubt – self confident people can smile a little and not take themselves too seriously by learning to manage less successful attempts and not damage their self-esteem.

If you really want to get to grips with your specific issue please contact me for an initial chat and to set up and appointment – you know “you deserve to be the best you can be.”

To your good health,

Maria