Happy New Year resolutions to one and all!
How do you cultivate your happiness in 2018?
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And I wonder what you intend to focus on in 2018? Any ideas? What New Year wish means happiness for you and what one thing would you love to achieve?
Sometimes we have the big picture of what we would like to happen – it’s the getting there that can seem to evade us. Before we know it, we’re saying ‘Hey Happy New Year 2019!’ Wow! Time flies!
The most reportedly popular New Year Resolutions that people seek appears to fall into these categories.
- Health and physical fitness
- Finding a career or changing your job
- Ditching bad relationships, creating stable and loving ones.
- Having fun and that can also mean time for yourself.
Do you hanker to revisit a beloved activity; from sewing to your artistic flair. Or finding something new like learning a language or becoming a bit of a Master chef.
- Spending more time face to face with people which means less time on social media!
- Giving back to your community by becoming active in a cause or donating cash.
- Caring for another – be that family, pets or your favourite garden plant-life.
Or maybe you have something that’s unique which means creating the time to plan for the New Year. That’s very often the issue isn’t it TIME TO PLAN? The ticking clock can become the blunt instrument that we always beat ourselves up with because we feel the pressure. And it can lead to all sorts of unhelpful messages about our ability to gain traction and achieve what we do want.
Time is a construct! – Use a bit of ‘time-trickery!’
It was in the 19th Century that the 80/20 rule was given light by a chap called Wilfred Pareto. He discovered that 80 percent of the world’s worth was in the hands of just 20 percent of the population. And further investigation shows that this simple rule is a pattern found in many areas in life. For example, if you were to examine how you live your life you might notice how you spend,
- 80 percent of your time focused on 20 percent of the problems that created you’re worrying.
- 80 percent of your achievements remarkably comes from 20 percent of the effort you put in.
This rule can even impact the clothing you wear, so that
- 80 percent of the time you find yourself wearing only 20 percent of what’s in your wardrobe.
Does this pattern ring a bell for you?
Where are you spending most of your energy? How would you better use that power to get the results that are important to you?
What kind of things do you need to do towards achieving a sense of meaning and purpose that results in higher happiness in 2018!
Procrastination is not a New Year option?
Rather than procrastinating because you need to find the time to plan. Stop just for 30 minutes and ask yourself these following questions. In answering them, (write your answers down), you could continue your journey towards an exciting year and progressive steps to feeling better.
People, places, things
- What are the 20 percent activities and areas of your life which involve 80 percent feelings of unwelcome pressure? (That could be stress or anxiety at work, in your home life, or something else?)
- What are the 20 percent things that you do in which you can acknowledge you have 80 percent of your happiness?
- Who are the 20 percent people in your life that you share 80 percent of your most enjoyable experiences?
- When it comes to feeling energised and happy, who or what comes to mind? And in the same vein what or who causes you to feel drained of energy?
Time to take action this New Year 2018
Take a look at your responses to those questions. Your answers can indicate what you could be doing more of and where you could genuinely make a start.
Realising you have a choice can give you a sense of what you value and what you need to start attracting in your health goals, relationships, your work, and in seeking out more fun times too.
If you were able to attract more of what makes you happy in your life, what things would you choose to focus more wholeheartedly on in 2018?
What would you be doing to reap more joyful long-term benefits? You may be surprised at how you can focus more on your direction by starting with one small action!
Doing those things which give you a sense of optimism and worth about yourself and your future is like gaining a new skill or gradually changing old habits.
Make the first step to a better new year a simple one
Focus more of your attention on the positive steps you will be taking.
For example, it’s easier to change your bedtime routine, so that you aren’t wound up from watching the 10 pm news on TV. A simple choice could be to read or watch something more light-hearted instead. In other words, go to bed with happier thoughts!
Whereas making different friendship choices – that’s who you spend your downtime with, maybe more of a gradual process. As is your health goals and the small things you could be doing to make improvements.
By sticking to the completion of a first step, you’ll be making a change towards giving more quality focus and action on a percentage that enriches you and gives you a sense of accomplishment.
What will you gain? What will you lose?
With any New Year wish it’s wise to take into account what you may gain as well as what you may lose. If letting go of the old and bringing on the new causes you to grow then that’s a good thing, as is also being considerate of others and acting honourably.
Where to start?
When we consider how ‘time is precious’ if you only had a year to achieve one aspect of your purpose or desire, what are the things you would choose to put to one side? To cut down on the feeling of being overwhelmed which limits your focus. It may be a matter of delegation; it may be that you just need to let that go.
Focusing more wholeheartedly on what brings you greater benefits means taking small action steps. That’s how you could be getting closer to making those strides all connect into a significant achievement.
Keeping in mind that it’s not always the destination but the journey along the way that can bring you a real sense of satisfaction. And sometimes this approach can reveal new ideas, thoughts, and directions which are exciting.
Starting as you mean to go on.
Positive psychology contains many tactics for retraining the brain to seek out more optimistic patterns. Choosing to tune into optimism has many health benefits including reducing stress.
Every night before you go to sleep, give thanks as you review from life those things that make you feel grateful.
Decide that 2018 will be a period of growth. That means that even if there are downs as well as ups, you’ll be able to celebrate the learning. All the potential for an increase in skills, resourcefulness, resilience and insights when 2018 comes to its conclusion.
Every day, follow your instincts by taking gradual steps. No matter how small, they all add-up towards you getting a step closer to your goal and continuing on the path of happiness.
Letting go of Limiting Beliefs – what stops you completing New Year Resolutions?
A-ha – those gremlins can be a bummer! If something in your mind is stopping you, a fear, sheer anxiety or procrastination. Is self-doubt stopping you from taking steps towards a better life? Then maybe 2018 could be the right time to seek professional help and guidance.
Or do you want to wait until 2019…2020…2021…2022?
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May I wish you all a brilliant 2018, including good health, happiness and prosperity.
And as always thanks for reading.
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