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Gratitude on a winters day

Thinking about Gratitude:

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Gratitude

It’s those fleeting moments of joy in your day that can make all the difference to your day. How to train your brain to notice them more.

#gratitude #acts of kindness #happiness

Yesterday I was out in the freezing cold of London on my way to visit the dentist! It turns out I had an excellent toothy peg cleanse. (fab hygienist skills – thanks), with no pain involved. As a reward, I followed my appointment with a beautiful cup of hot java at the local organic food café. I recalled this particular quote which I added to a photo I snapped in my garden one summer.

I wondered have you ever found happiness where you least expected it?

Go on spoil yourself or someone else today. After all, it’s the simple actions that can bring the most joy to our self, or when we take special care in doing something for another.

It’s good to become more aware of fleeting moments of happiness because they all add up to the possibilities of feeling better.

Gratitude journal: A positive psychology technique.

What does gratitude mean to you? Some may say it’s looking for those things that have changed for the better in your life.

Whereas to appreciate could mean that even if something was frustrating while you were experiencing it, you could look back now in appreciation of what you learned.

So even if it’s hard to feel grateful, we can still appreciate an insight which adds to our resources for resilience.

When you reminisce, what are those things in life where you feel a sense of gratitude?

Broaden your perspective:

For example, have you thought of being grateful for eventually understanding a hard problem you have been trying to solve?

If there where people in your life you feel thankful for who would those people be?

Broaden the circle of gratitude:

Include actions from people you don’t know like the smile that the cashier at the supermarket gave you.

The difference that makes the difference to your day.

Consider the possibility that the more we recognise and appreciate the things in life, (our efforts no matter how small, the kindness of others), the more we get those things in our life.

It’s like a brain training exercise to notice even those fleeting moments of happiness and positivity.

Hmm here’s to the taste of a good cuppa coffee or tea after a dental-cleanse! ;-D

Making gratitude a pleasurable task:

Allowing your unconscious to collect three positive things to look back on at the end of each day can continue to give you a better experience in life.

And when you write them down you have a lovely collection of memories to boost you if there should be a grey, cold winter day.

You may be interested in a few tips from those who practice happiness in their daily live click to read an earlier blog on this.

https://mariarichards.co.uk/east-london_happiness_cognitive-hypnotherapy/

What is gratitude and its role in positive psychology – definitions and tools

If you’re interested in increasing your knowledge on this topic take a peek at this site by clicking here

Gratitude

Maria Richards Cognitive Hypnotherapist

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Happiness!

Raising the default level of happiness in your life:

Theories abound about what it is that brings us true happiness. Like for example, “60% of our happiness is determined by genetics and our environment and that the other 40% is up to us”.

What’s for sure is that happiness can be something different for every one of us.

Research within the field of positive psychology has shown that the pursuit of ‘pleasure’ in itself, does not necessarily have any contribution to lasting fulfillment and happiness.

Rather ‘pleasure’ is the icing on the cake for those of us leading satisfactory lives which has meaning and purpose, and where we have a sense of engagement by being in-flow with what we are doing.

Yes, indeed this is possible to do. In the rush of our lives, it’s sometimes too easy to overlook those things that could make a difference in raising our perceptions and happiness levels.

Here’s are few tips from those who practice happiness within their daily lives.

Surrounding yourself with other happy people:

Well, who needs to be brought down by other peoples negative attitudes and behaviours?

If we feel that we are surrounded by people behaving or thinking in a certain way, it’s so easy to take on the same way of thinking and being.

Make a change and find people who are more joyous and playful – that too is just as contagious.

Cultivate resilience:

Okay, so something you’ve tried out may not be successful at first. To succeed we have to be willing to fail, then we can start coming up with the golden moments.

Take small steps towards what it is you want to do and remember to look out and celebrate the smaller victories too.

Appreciate simple pleasures:

At the end of your day, and just before you go to sleep, there is a ‘positive psychology’ tactic you can try out.

Take a moment to allow your unconscious to bring forward 1 to 3 gifts from the day.

For example, it could be help from a stranger, the beauty of the sky, or a flower, a piece of music, something you did to help another.

Whatever it is that would be a good thing to have happened because of, or while you were present.

Choosing to tune into optimism has many health benefits including reducing stress.

Learning ‘mindfulness’ or ‘meditation:

Giving you a chance to put to one side the cares of the day. Switch off technology and find a place to be at peace, just for 10 to 20 minutes once or twice a day.

Using mindfulness or meditation techniques can lower your stress levels, recharge your brain functions and increase your resilience.

Connect with your environment in a new way:

By tapping into different habits, you could make a difference to your day, or your week. Learning to make choices in how we interact with ourselves and the world around us more positively.
For example, some people help themselves by creating a better experience of their day by choosing a different route through the park or a new street.
Opening up their awareness to the amazing things that surround us.

For many more tips and the route to background studies and research, I’d like to share with you this excellent blog from the Huffington post:

The Habits of Extremely Happy people

To your good health,

Maria

Cognitive Hypnotherapy offers a range of techniques and hypnotic downloads.  They can help you to relax or release you from the strains of stress and anxiety. 

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Maria Richards Cognitive Hypnotherapist

If stress or anxiety are causing you a problem you could contact me, click on my picture. And let’s see how we can help you take back control and create a much better experience in your life. 

You may also be interested in a previous blog on mindfulness – the spin cycle of stress – a small change can really help.