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With your safety in mind.
Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so”… The Bard
Anxiety with constant worrying.
When a client came to me for help, he expressed how the anxiety was made worse by his experience of persistent negative thoughts.
He hoped that Cognitive Hypnotherapy could help him to break that cycle.
It made me wonder about the nature of thought and why it can have such a hold on us?
“If I don’t worry about it then it will get worse…”, I just can’t cope… “I’m afraid to make the wrong decision”… because, because, because.
For many people who are suffering from anxiety, it can feel as if those unwanted thoughts are tumbling around like old clothes with no escape from a locked spin dryer.
* “Personal well-being provides an important insight into people’s thoughts and feelings about their quality of life.”
The National Office of Statistics details research in the understanding of how different age groups rate their well-being differently.
By influencing policy makers, it’s hoped to help those specific age groups most in need.
Who or what holds power to release independent anxious thinking?
– what do you need to believe to let the negative consequences you’re imagining, go?
The thing is that the unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is in your reality and what you believe for your future as a consequence of an anxious thought.
“If I screw this up again I’ll lose my job and then…” fill in the imaginary blank”.
These internal emotions bring to mind a set of rules based on fear, not only are they genuinely felt they can leave people in a quagmire of rumination. Such thoughts have a minimal basis in present reality, but they can disturb sleep, mess with your appetite and cloud any clarity of thought.
The clarity you need which, allows you to be creative because a peaceful mind can very often surprise us with levels of perception and the ability to suss out progressive steps.
The thing is if you woke in the morning with the thought “ I don’t want to be thinking that negative thought today” – oh-oh to late you’ve already considered it.
You see, what we bring to mind, comes to mind and in order not to bring it up in your mind – the brain will hunt for that very thing. (Here’s an experiment; ’don’t think of a blue tree’ – what just happened?).
Broadly speaking thoughts can be ‘bound’ (literally) by our perception of reality which for some becomes limited by our past experiences. Once we step outside our ‘safety zone’ the mind may seek to protect us.
So what if we could reduce levels of anxiety by enjoying the thrill of becoming better versions of ourselves.
Lifting the curtain on the magic trick
The thought is an illusion especially if it hasn’t happened yet. Sometimes we need to learn how to let that thought go, and this can begin through acceptance and action of a different kind.
When a client felt burdened by worries at work then he became caught in a cycle of anxiety and depression, he lost sleep, increased his daily amount of alcohol and couldn’t think clearly.
He saw his life as swirling down the plughole while he imagined losing his family. By looking for the solution to his ‘problems’ through fear it built up his anxiety.
He found that learning things like self-hypnosis and relaxation, plus experiencing other therapeutic techniques, got him to the point where he could switch his focus. Let unhelpful thinking go, and be open to better solutions.
He felt enabled to do more to strengthen his and his families emotional needs.
The Mind/Body connection
For him that meant also getting fitter, healthier, finding a creative hobby and spending quality time in having fun with his wife and children.
This helped him to step out of the old unhelpful cycle. By seeking a progressive way to deal with ‘real’ issues he stepped towards ‘real’ solutions in his present. He even considered a change in his career.
To his surprise, ‘all was not lost ‘just because he decided to relegate any unhelpful thoughts.
He turned more towards growth, and with patience, he learned that
‘thought is harmless unless you believe it’, it was the attachment to the negative thought that caused his suffering in the first place.”
Gradually realising how a more balanced outlook can lead to improvements in confidence and self-esteem in many delightful ways.
If you were offered a golden key, with the opportunity to release that old pattern of thinking by letting it go, choosing a fresh perspective, would you take it?
Ready to take that first step?
Source: GB Office of National Statistics February 2016 – article source. An analysis of personal well-being data. Search for –
Measuring national well-being ‘At what age is personal well-being at its highest’ Michael Steel
UK study: Collected over a period of 3 years, 2012-1015 with a sample of over 300,000 adults.